A staff member recently told me about a conversation he’d had with another trainer. The other person was an advocate of my S.P.E.A.R. System and Personal Defense Readiness research, but he said he didn’t know if he could handle working for me because I’m too severe with my staff.
I had heard that complaint before, and it had even been suggested that I should “lower the bar” because my standards are too high. A couple of penetrating quotes came to mind. First was Brandon Lee’s classic: “For what level of mediocrity will you settle?” Next was Colin Powell’s take on the same theme: “Mediocre people are always at their best.”
Lower the bar? Those people who look at the bar see it only in relationship to where they aren’t. And that bothers them. Instead of working harder, they want more to be less (a lazy misinterpretation of the “less is more” adage). Those who look at standards as an obstacle have confused that word with “standard.” The standard isn’t meant to be generic or average. In fact, when used in a phrase such as “setting the standard,” it’s supposed to mean, “that by which all else will be measured.” Bluntly put, standards cannot be altered. They simply are.
Lowering standards has been a worldwide epidemic for some time. Laziness may be a personality trait, but training for laziness was set in motion by bureaucrats and a little math (specifically, the egalitarian bell-curve, which was created to help statistics and egos). It doesn’t improve quality or conditions, but through osmosis, it has seeped into society’s work ethic. In the artistic sense of the word, I am an elitist. I believe the best should experience the greatest success because they’ve earned it. Practice doesn’t make perfect, and perfect practice doesn’t make perfect. Practice makes you better, and better is where it’s at.
In the defensive tactics and combative communities, our standards should be far from standard. They should move constantly stretching us further as we learn more about the capabilities of our minds and bodies. We should rarely, if ever, be satisfied with our performance. Now, that should not be interpreted to mean we shouldn’t be pleased with our performance in class or at a seminar. It’s fine to have a peak experience during a session, but after the fact, we should critique something (if not everything we just did). Standards aren’t some imaginary line we race to. They are visions, evolutions and possibilities. They represent the goals we set for ourselves every day.
My method is based on a philosophy of Personal Defense Readiness (PDR). This PDR psychology and philosophy, precipitated the shift from sport to street, and is driven by a pursuit of excellence, a quest for integrity and truth. Remember, irrespective of your position on a SWAT team, on patrol, UC, jail and so on, PDR is your responsibility. Violence can occur suddenly, anywhere, anytime (“If you’re around dangerous people, you’re in ‘danger’”–BTCMS slogan). The real-world arena is not a sport, and it’s not a contest. Therefore, I have a moral, ethical and legal responsibility to continually review the standards I set for my staff and myself.
Standards should never be set for the common denominator. Messing with them so a quota can be met or so someone can feel good about a student’s progress is unconscionable for those of us who teach real-life street-defense tactics.
Teaching people how to confront violence cannot be touchy-feely because violence never is. Our standards must be set to maximize personal safety and teach the student what must be taught. We should never tolerate “not bad” or “pretty good.” Once set, our standards should be pursued, and then raised again to coincide with what we just learned about the truth.
As this rant winds down, the original question re-emerges: Am I too severe with my staff? The word “too” is the key. It’s actually the operative word in the sentence. Am I severe? Yes. Too severe? Well, that depends on who’s training, I suppose. As Thucydides once said, “He is best who is trained in the severest school.”
Stay safe,
Tony Blauer
Tony Blauer has been innovating and influencing modern self-defense since 1982. To find out more about Tony Blauer’s systems, visit him online at www.tonyblauer.com
About Tony Blauer
Tony Blauer has been teaching professionally for over 20 years and has pioneered work on the psychological and behavioral components of confrontations. Dubbed “The Self-defense Psychologist”, Blauer conducts seminars the world over and is considered one of the foremost authorities on personal protection. Mr. Blauer stars in over 20 instructional videos and has appeared in over 90 magazines including FORBES.
He currently runs TACTICAL CONFRONTATION MANAGEMENT SYSTEMS, a consulting firm specializing in training military and law enforcement groups in his ‘S.P.E.A.R. SYSTEM’.
For more information on Tony Blauer’s motivation & combative seminars contact him directly at (514) 482-1643 or on the WEB @ www.tonyblauer.com