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When the child becomes the abuser

Why child-to-parent violence remains one of the least understood forms of domestic abuse — and what officers can do to recognize the warning signs before tragedy occurs

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Many officers have encountered child-to-parent violence. Few have received formal training on how to recognize it.
In this episode of the Policing Matters podcast, host Jim Dudley speaks with retired Oak Park Sergeant Rasul Freelain about the years of escalating abuse that preceded the infamous Bali suitcase murder. Drawing on his experience investigating the case and the research behind his forthcoming book, “When Lambs Become Wolves: The Chilling Case of Sheila von Wiese-Mack,” Freelain explains why child-to-parent violence often goes unnoticed, how systems can miss critical warning signs and what law enforcement can do when a parent becomes the victim.

Freelain served as a detective, patrol officer and supervisor connected to the Mack family case. He shares the warning signs he observed, the challenges officers faced when trying to intervene and how the case inspired his ongoing work training law enforcement agencies to recognize child-to-parent violence and abuse.

Tune in to discover

  • Why child-to-parent violence is often misunderstood by police, courts and mental health professionals
  • The warning signs that convinced investigators a tragedy was imminent
  • How repeated contacts with a family can still fail to prevent violence
  • What officers should know about victim dynamics when a parent is being abused by a child
  • Why Freelain believes child-to-parent violence deserves dedicated law enforcement training

About our guest

Sgt. Rasul T. Freelain served for 20 years with the Oak Park Police Department in Illinois, where his roles included sergeant, detective, school resource officer, gang enforcement officer and patrol officer. He is a certified crisis intervention team coordinator and instructor who trains law enforcement professionals on crisis intervention, de-escalation and child-to-parent violence and abuse. He is the author of “When Lambs Become Wolves: The Chilling Case of Sheila von Wiese-Mack.”

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